“What God has joined together, let no one put asunder”. Do you think about your vows; your marriage and often wonder if it’s worth it. I mean, the heartache, pain, disappointment, financial struggles – is it really worth it – going through all of this in a relationship? You know this is a trick question – right! Is it worth is? Yes, it is!
As a marriage counselor and counseled several couples through their pre-marital challenges, it made me take a look at my own marriage. Here is was encouraging them to work through their problems and to communicate. I gave them exercises to help them interact more productively – they did it and it worked. I listened to their stories about things they considered to be a struggle and shed light on the minimal impact that it had on their relationship. They shared tears, fears and all were able to see that at the end of the day, they were important enough to each other to allow God to be the center of their union and work it out.
How hypocritical of me, here I was encourage them while I was facing times in my marriage that I felt like it wasn’t worth it and wanted to give up. I was being selfish, I can admit that now but when my husband was challenging me with truth – I constantly denied everything. What spirit was resident within me that was causing me to push away a blessing? I was dealing with a spirit of rejection and it was causing havoc in my life, my marriage, my ministry and it had to stop. That spirit had manifested itself through passive aggressive behavior, lack of confidence, fear of further rejection, guilt and even vexation. The enemy had me captive, believing that it wasn’t worth it.
I thank God for His power, and revealing to me the lie that had gotten my attention. I took authority over that spirit and that mindset. I took my confidence back, my willingness to communicate openly back – I took back all that the enemy had stolen from my marriage because It’s Worth It!
Too often, as a people we get so consumed with our trials and tribulations without taking to time to find a viable resolve. We’ve got to stop – breath – reassess – and then move forward in God’s plan for our lives and our marriages. If you’ve been struggling in your marriage, wondering if it’s worth is – don’t give up so quickly. Seek God for an answer as to why and then obey the directions that He gives you to fix it. Marriage is honorable before God, it’s a good thing and remember – It Is Worth It!