The Seeds I’ve Sown

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Do you ever wonder why your relationship feels challenging, no matter what you do?  This feeling was a constant for me for many years.  I would attempt to engage in a meaningful relationship only to sabotage it with my own thoughts and behavior.  I was reminded of the word that reads in Galatians 6:7, “A man reaps what he sows.”

What I’ve learned in life is that whatever you do to others will certainly come back to you in one form or another!  First, let me share with you that I am not an expert in relationships by societal norms, but I can attest to how bad relationships can affect you.  It is because of my experiences that I decided to pin this book as a reality check for someone who may think that they are slicker than the next person and has the relationship “game” on lock.

Relationships are a vital part of each of our lives, and without guidance from the Holy Spirit, we can do damage to ourselves and those connected to us.  I invite you to embrace these useful keys that I have realized during my journey that will benefit you in your current or next relationship.

As a way of empowering God’s people, be on the lookout for my next book release, The Seeds I’ve Sown in June 2018.

BE EMPOWERED!

 

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Are We Unified

 

 

 

 

 

As pre-marital/marriage counselors, we often have conversations with couples about the concept of being unified. Mark 10:6-8 reads, “But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. ONE flesh!  Even though this scripture is read and discussed in counseling and read again at the wedding, many couples don’t want to embrace this facet of marriage.

Unity is defined as the state of being united or joined as a whole, which is a foundation of marriage.  We operate with separate accounts, access, and mindsets that are far away from God’ plan and it is causing major turmoil in our society.  What has society done to change our minds about marriage?  What have we as individuals done to allow this infiltration of selfishness, so much so that we ignore His plan for marriage?

God wants a husband (male) and wife (female) to grow together in Him, fulling His plan for a unified marriage.  Are you willing to have a marriage that God would be pleased with?  Let’s have UNITY in our marriages starting today!

Valerie

Help is Available

How long do you walk around feeling ill before seeking a solution? I’ve encountered a lot of people lately that are walking around poisoning people with their emotional turmoil – and seemingly refusing to acknowledge that they need help. Is it pride that keeps you in that place of bondage? Are you so afraid of your own truth and vulnerability that you can’t face it?

Lately, I’m taking a closer daily inventory of my life to ensure that if there is misalignment, I get it straight quickly! I empathize for those who can’t reflect but choose to deflect their stuff onto others. Don’t you realize that HELP IS AVAILABLE?

The longer you move about misguided and toxic, the harder things become. Misalignment brings with it the “afflictions” that we read about Psalm 34:19, concerning the righteous; and then there is the “but God”! That’s HELP!

Let me empower you today with these words of wisdom from my life experience:

  • Forgive yourself and forgive others; this is usually one of the greatest hindrances of life
  • Seek the Holy Spirit for your purpose and pursue it with everything you’ve got
  • Find yourself a circle of influence that is where you desire to be, not where you’ve been
  • Find a trusted counselor

Let’s begin a new journey today.  A journey towards wholeness, nothing missing and nothing lacking.  Let’s seek resolve for whatever challenges we’re facing – accepting the HELP that is available.

Be EMPOWERED!

What are you afraid of?

Do you have a counselor?  Whether it’s sports, career, marriage or life in general, the role of a counselor is a necessary component for success!  I spoke with a few individuals this weekend about relationships and the necessity of getting some guidance to help them succeed and the response more often than not was, “We don’t need a counselor.”.  My question today is, “What are you afraid of?”.

What I’ve experienced in the counseling field is that people are apprehensive of seeking counseling for several reasons:

  • Not willing to deal with their reality
  • Exposing hidden truths
  • Lack of coping tools
  • Co-dependency
  • No self-worth
  • Lack of understanding

Why do  you go to the doctor?  You go because something is physically not right with your body.  It is that same reason that you should seek out a trusted professional to aid you when your life is out of alignment.  I gained so much insight about myself during my studies in Temperament Counseling that I’ve become a Licensed Counselor.  The benefits is brought not just to me but my marriage, my relationship with my children and even my career path has been greatly impacted by receiving the truth concerning my inborn and how God created me to cope.

Today, I want to challenge you to seek out the help that you need for any area of your life that you may be struggling in.  Anything that you’re facing at this moment should not keep you captive from moving forward and being a success.   Stop being afraid of the unknown; find a trusted counselor, face your situation, develop a strategy for change, and EMPOWER yourself to succeed!

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