Do you have a counselor? Whether it’s sports, career, marriage or life in general, the role of a counselor is a necessary component for success! I spoke with a few individuals this weekend about relationships and the necessity of getting some guidance to help them succeed and the response more often than not was, “We don’t need a counselor.”. My question today is, “What are you afraid of?”.
What I’ve experienced in the counseling field is that people are apprehensive of seeking counseling for several reasons:
Not willing to deal with their reality
Exposing hidden truths
Lack of coping tools
Lack of understanding
Why do you go to the doctor? You go because something is physically not right with your body. It is that same reason that you should seek out a trusted professional to aid you when your life is out of alignment. I gained so much insight about myself during my studies in Temperament Counseling that I’ve become a Licensed Counselor. The benefits is brought not just to me but my marriage, my relationship with my children and even my career path has been greatly impacted by receiving the truth concerning my inborn and how God created me to cope.
Today, I want to challenge you to seek out the help that you need for any area of your life that you may be struggling in. Anything that you’re facing at this moment should not keep you captive from moving forward and being a success. Stop being afraid of the unknown; find a trusted counselor, face your situation, develop a strategy for change, and EMPOWER yourself to succeed!
Does is bother you when you’ve not been accepted by a certain person or group of people? Does it really matter if you don’t fit in? I’m sure most will say, I’m cool with not being accepted by people and give you religious response, “I’m accepted by God”. That’s a really good answer but unfortunately – it’s not the truth for most. 😦
Acceptance is something that we all desire, whether it be a child being accepted by a parent, a new employee being accepted on the job, or simply having your circle of influence expanded by like minded champions. Acceptance is something that we all desire! In reading over the manuscript of our book this morning, this passage from the chapter “You Bastard” began speaking loudly again.
” I remember being asked as a child, “Who is your daddy?” and I couldn’t answer. All I remember ever stating was that my mother was Barbara. People often ask who your parents are as a way to find out your lineage, or a possible relation to them, but some will ask with the intent to disqualify you or make you feel unworthy. As a child you are unable to discern the true meaning behind the question, yet you are left to deal with the repercussions of it. Did it really matter to people if they knew who my dad was? Did everybody know I was a bastard and were mocking me? Is that why I was treated differently? These are emotions that I’m recalling as if it were yesterday. Having been born into a relationship of two individuals who had “moments of expressed love”, yet now I’m suffering because of it.” (taken from “I Am His Child” by V. Burrell & N. Williams)
Acceptance, was the root of this torn moment that would require truth to bring forth healing. Today, take time to look within – exposing those areas in your life where healing is needed in the area of acceptance. Don’t overexert yourself in this process though – come to terms with the reality that you’re not going to be accepted by all. Seek out those relationships that you’ve yearned for, those individuals who would be willing to embrace you with love and understanding that’s unapologetic and pure. Be mindful also that the first step in acceptance is attached to forgiveness.
1 Chronicles 4:10 reads, “Jabez prayed to the God of Israel, “Please bless me and give me more territory. May your power be with me and free me from evil so that I will not be in pain.” God gave him what he prayed for. (God’s Word Translation)
Are you praying for increase in your life? Is your conversation with God such that you’d get what you’re asking for? Do you realize that in this prayer, Jabez made a petition based on what he heard, not really even knowing God for himself and God answered him? I know we’re asking a lot of questions but we’ve got to know that God is waiting on a conversation from us about that which He’s already spoken concerning us – He wants to increase us but are we ready??
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