Do you have a counselor? Whether it’s sports, career, marriage or life in general, the role of a counselor is a necessary component for success! I spoke with a few individuals this weekend about relationships and the necessity of getting some guidance to help them succeed and the response more often than not was, “We don’t need a counselor.”. My question today is, “What are you afraid of?”.
What I’ve experienced in the counseling field is that people are apprehensive of seeking counseling for several reasons:
Not willing to deal with their reality
Exposing hidden truths
Lack of coping tools
Lack of understanding
Why do you go to the doctor? You go because something is physically not right with your body. It is that same reason that you should seek out a trusted professional to aid you when your life is out of alignment. I gained so much insight about myself during my studies in Temperament Counseling that I’ve become a Licensed Counselor. The benefits is brought not just to me but my marriage, my relationship with my children and even my career path has been greatly impacted by receiving the truth concerning my inborn and how God created me to cope.
Today, I want to challenge you to seek out the help that you need for any area of your life that you may be struggling in. Anything that you’re facing at this moment should not keep you captive from moving forward and being a success. Stop being afraid of the unknown; find a trusted counselor, face your situation, develop a strategy for change, and EMPOWER yourself to succeed!
Hello, my name is Valerie Burrell, and I am your Life Coach. Typing that even felt a little funny, as I was speaking it out of my mouth as I was typing it. This is a defining moment in my life!!! For several years, I had struggled with understanding my purpose in the earth, expecting that who I am and what I was supposed to do looked just like Susie – yet I didn’t measure up. I had been driven by the instructions of others based on thier need of me and was miserable. I have a relationship with Christ yet I hadn’t made him Lord over my life, nor was I relying on the Holy Spirit for guidance. I was just going with the flow, accepting most of what people shared with me concerning my life and was stagnant and unproducive.
Today, my husband and I are launching out, striking while it’s hot, moving forward in the work that has been assigned to us on the earth. Today, we are the moving vessel called The Empowerment Place! You might say to yourself, “Valerie, you’ve been doing this for a few years now – what’s defferent and defining about this moment?” Good question! For the past two years, I have been studying. Studying the Word of God, completing my Master’s degree and becoming a Certified Christian Counselor. I have poured into myself according to what the Holy Spirit was speaking to prepare me for this moment. I am fully engaged in my purpose – that’s the defining moment! For many of us, we go through the motions, we claim that we know who we are and what we’re supposed to do, yet we make no movement towards fulfillment of purpose.
Today, would you be brave enough to put fear, guilt, shame, unforgiveness or whatever it is that has held you captive – and start your journey on PURPOSE? I was reminded last week that life isn’t supposed to be hard, it gets that way when we try to navigate our situations instead of relying on the one that was sent to comfort and guide us. Benny and I are strategically BECOMING all that God has intended we be and it begins today. My friends, move forward in what God has called you to. Fulfill your purpose! Aim high! Win!! Be Empowered! #E2EO
Our broadcast this week shared regarding the topic of rejection. What we fail to realize is that rejection and failure are often mindsets of the world imposed upon you to conform to their idea of right. I’m going to stand on God’s word and move according to His plan and dismiss the foolishness. There is a place that God is trying to get us too and we’ve got to recognize that what we are currently facing is the vessel that will be used to move us forward!
On a typical day, I watch very little television and that entertainment is limited to one of three channels because I like happy endings! The interruption occurs, a commercial, and its talking about car insurance. The commercial suggests that you’ve chosen the wrong insurance company because your company is only going to give you enough money to pay for 1/3 of your totaled vehicle. How tragic! You’ve been making an investment in a plan that you trusted to cover in the time of need and it doesn’t happen. It is that same way when investing your time in relationships that don’t provide the needed dividend in times of need.
Good news! There is a relationship that you can invest in that covers any situation you may face. If you’ve received Jesus as Lord and savior there is coverage for you! Isaiah 54:17 reads, “No weapon that is fashioned against you shall succeed, and you shall refute every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD and their vindication from me, declares the LORD.” To know that whatever circumstance you may face, God has you covered and the enemy will not succeed. Many are facing some trying times right now; emotional, financial, grief, or a health concern – just know that God has you covered. Today, God wants you EMPOWERED by His Word. Today, He wants your faith strengthened in the midst of your trouble – knowing that He’s got you COVERED!
Pray this prayer with me:
Father, I come before you in this moment, seeking solace in the time of turmoil and fear. God, I need you like never before to re-align me on the path that you’ve established for me. I am asking that you forgive me for the error of my ways and cleanse me from all unrighteousness. I trust you Father and I yield my will to yours. Today, I believe that I Am Covered. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Does is bother you when you’ve not been accepted by a certain person or group of people? Does it really matter if you don’t fit in? I’m sure most will say, I’m cool with not being accepted by people and give you religious response, “I’m accepted by God”. That’s a really good answer but unfortunately – it’s not the truth for most. 😦
Acceptance is something that we all desire, whether it be a child being accepted by a parent, a new employee being accepted on the job, or simply having your circle of influence expanded by like minded champions. Acceptance is something that we all desire! In reading over the manuscript of our book this morning, this passage from the chapter “You Bastard” began speaking loudly again.
” I remember being asked as a child, “Who is your daddy?” and I couldn’t answer. All I remember ever stating was that my mother was Barbara. People often ask who your parents are as a way to find out your lineage, or a possible relation to them, but some will ask with the intent to disqualify you or make you feel unworthy. As a child you are unable to discern the true meaning behind the question, yet you are left to deal with the repercussions of it. Did it really matter to people if they knew who my dad was? Did everybody know I was a bastard and were mocking me? Is that why I was treated differently? These are emotions that I’m recalling as if it were yesterday. Having been born into a relationship of two individuals who had “moments of expressed love”, yet now I’m suffering because of it.” (taken from “I Am His Child” by V. Burrell & N. Williams)
Acceptance, was the root of this torn moment that would require truth to bring forth healing. Today, take time to look within – exposing those areas in your life where healing is needed in the area of acceptance. Don’t overexert yourself in this process though – come to terms with the reality that you’re not going to be accepted by all. Seek out those relationships that you’ve yearned for, those individuals who would be willing to embrace you with love and understanding that’s unapologetic and pure. Be mindful also that the first step in acceptance is attached to forgiveness.
As I reflect this morning on our Bible Encounter last night, the idea of silence is still weighing heavily on me. Silence, by definition means, “the complete absence of sound or to prevent from speaking” according to Webster. Silence for me is a time of reflection, a time of revelation, a time of healing, a time of re-alignment, a time of liberty, a time of patience, a time of growing. Silence is EMPOWERING when utilized appropriately. Proverbs 17:28 reads, “Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is considered prudent. Even a fool can utilize silence for a benefit. LOL!
So, the long and the short of this thought is that some of us need exercise some silence. We’ve become so overwhelmed with the uncertainties of life that all we do is complain and cast fault. We are so ridden with the cares of this world that we’re not recognizing the transitioning that’s taking place in front of our eyes. Sit down, lay down, quiet down and just be silent for a moment and breath! I want to encourage you that God is very aware of all that you’re going through. He has not left you, nor has he forsaken you. He is still in control! What’s needed now is for you to keep silent in His presence and hear what He is speaking to you concerning your life, and all that’s going on in it. Your problems are not too hard to solve, just listen to Him. Today, He wants to reveal the solution but He needs you to be silent because you’ve been making too much noise.