Last year, both of my parents passed away; my father in July and my mother in September. With them not being married, or even a couple, this caused for pools of emotions from two separate sets of siblings and at times became a bit challenging. As a counselor, I found myself offering assistance in that capacity but not dealing with their passing on a personal level of being daughter, sister, mom or auntie. As time has passed, I’m now seeing and feeling the loss in a different way; not just my experience but also the experiences of my siblings.
We all grieve in our own way. Some have taken on compulsive habits that are addictive and harmful, some have become so occupied that they don’t have time to think about what’s taken place while others drift amiss, hoping that portions of this is a dream that they will soon awaken from. Regardless of the steps we take, we all have a grief process that we must go through in order to be healed from the loss. I want to empower you today with a few thoughts:
don’t attempt to make others fit into “your” grief process, everyone grieves differently
don’t put a time limit on when one should move forward in life, such as with a new relationship
don’t tell someone that they’ve grieved long enough – that’s so harsh
be patient in your process, take each step as a teaching and healing tool
stay optimistic about life, a loss should not keep you in a depressed state, especially if it was someone who had a relationship with God
prepare to live again!
Life happens, death is inevitable – grief is real but we must for your own sanity understand your grief process and be willing to go through it your way.
As I reflect this morning on our Bible Encounter last night, the idea of silence is still weighing heavily on me. Silence, by definition means, “the complete absence of sound or to prevent from speaking” according to Webster. Silence for me is a time of reflection, a time of revelation, a time of healing, a time of re-alignment, a time of liberty, a time of patience, a time of growing. Silence is EMPOWERING when utilized appropriately. Proverbs 17:28 reads, “Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is considered prudent. Even a fool can utilize silence for a benefit. LOL!
So, the long and the short of this thought is that some of us need exercise some silence. We’ve become so overwhelmed with the uncertainties of life that all we do is complain and cast fault. We are so ridden with the cares of this world that we’re not recognizing the transitioning that’s taking place in front of our eyes. Sit down, lay down, quiet down and just be silent for a moment and breath! I want to encourage you that God is very aware of all that you’re going through. He has not left you, nor has he forsaken you. He is still in control! What’s needed now is for you to keep silent in His presence and hear what He is speaking to you concerning your life, and all that’s going on in it. Your problems are not too hard to solve, just listen to Him. Today, He wants to reveal the solution but He needs you to be silent because you’ve been making too much noise.